IFS parts, kevod, and SMART goals

Here is a detailed mapping of Jungian archetypes to Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts and wounds, focusing on the Mussar trait of kevod (honor/respect). Each archetype is linked to an IFS part and a common wound it might represent, alongside NVC OFNR SMART goals to enhance skillful practice of kevod.

1. The Innocent

• IFS Part: The Inner Child
• Wound: Fear of rejection or betrayal when offering trust.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I avoid setting boundaries in relationships.
  • Feeling: I feel nervous because I need connection and safety.
  • Need: I value mutual respect for boundaries.
  • Request: I will practice stating one clear boundary with a trusted friend by the end of this week.

2. The Orphan

• IFS Part: The Exile
• Wound: Fear of abandonment or lack of belonging.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I avoid speaking up in group settings.
  • Feeling: I feel insecure because I need inclusion.
  • Need: I value shared belonging.
  • Request: I will contribute one thought or idea during the next team meeting to foster my sense of participation.

3. The Warrior

• IFS Part: The Protector
• Wound: Fear of vulnerability leading to perceived weakness.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I often interrupt others during arguments.
  • Feeling: I feel impatient because I need fairness and clarity.
  • Need: I value respect for others’ perspectives.
  • Request: I will pause and count to five before responding in discussions for the next two weeks.

4. The Caregiver

• IFS Part: The Pleaser
• Wound: Fear of being unworthy unless serving others.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I say “yes” to requests even when I feel overwhelmed.
  • Feeling: I feel drained because I need balance.
  • Need: I value honoring my own needs as well as others’.
  • Request: I will practice saying “I need time to think about this” when asked for help this week.

5. The Seeker

• IFS Part: The Explorer
• Wound: Fear of stagnation or being trapped.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I get distracted by personal goals during group discussions.
  • Feeling: I feel disconnected because I need alignment with others.
  • Need: I value shared focus and purpose.
  • Request: I will reflect on and affirm one group goal in every meeting for the next month.

6. The Lover

• IFS Part: The Idealist
• Wound: Fear of not being loved or valued.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I over-praise others to gain approval.
  • Feeling: I feel anxious because I need self-assurance.
  • Need: I value authenticity in my relationships.
  • Request: I will give one heartfelt compliment without seeking validation each day for the next two weeks.

7. The Destroyer

• IFS Part: The Challenger
• Wound: Fear of being trapped in unhealthy dynamics.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I criticize harshly when others make mistakes.
  • Feeling: I feel frustrated because I need progress and growth.
  • Need: I value constructive feedback.
  • Request: I will reframe one critical comment into constructive feedback during every conversation for the next two weeks.

8. The Creator

• IFS Part: The Innovator
• Wound: Fear of failure or inadequacy in one’s contributions.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I dismiss others’ ideas as less creative.
  • Feeling: I feel disheartened because I need mutual recognition.
  • Need: I value collaboration and respect for creativity.
  • Request: I will affirm one unique idea from others in every brainstorming session for the next month.

9. The Ruler

• IFS Part: The Manager
• Wound: Fear of chaos or loss of control.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I micromanage my team frequently.
  • Feeling: I feel stressed because I need trust in others’ abilities.
  • Need: I value empowerment and delegation.
  • Request: I will delegate one major task to a team member this week and provide them full autonomy.

10. The Magician

• IFS Part: The Visionary
• Wound: Fear of being powerless or insignificant.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I guide conversations to align with my agenda.
  • Feeling: I feel uneasy because I need genuine collaboration.
  • Need: I value shared input.
  • Request: I will ask for input from others during every group decision-making process this month.

11. The Sage

• IFS Part: The Inner Critic
• Wound: Fear of ignorance or being seen as unintelligent.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I correct others excessively during discussions.
  • Feeling: I feel conflicted because I need shared understanding.
  • Need: I value humility and mutual respect.
  • Request: I will limit corrections to one per conversation unless explicitly invited to offer insights, starting today.

12. The Jester

• IFS Part: The Trickster
• Wound: Fear of being irrelevant or unvalued.
• SMART Goal:
  • Observation: I notice I use sarcasm during tense situations.
  • Feeling: I feel regretful because I need to maintain positivity.
  • Need: I value constructive communication.
  • Request: I will reframe one sarcastic remark into a constructive comment during every difficult interaction over the next two weeks.

This mapping integrates IFS principles with Jungian archetypes and kevod, providing a holistic framework to foster respect for oneself and others.